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Decisions ~ Decisions

Organizing is something everyone needs and uses every day to some degree. Some of you have better control over your clutter than other. Some of you feel overwhelmed at the thought of finding your shoes.

That’s OK. I am here to help you find a method that works for you. Not for your mom, or sister or even the neighbor next door. Something that works for you and your family may in fact not work for everyone.chaos-485493_960_720

Have you heard of the Kondo method?

The Kondo principle is dead simple: Touch every single item. Feel it. Think about it. Ask yourself does it bring me joy? If it does, keep it. If not, ditch it.

Try it. Open your closet and start with your winter clothes. Pull ever thing out one at a time. Touch it. Feel it. Does it bring you joy? Does it fit? Did you wear it this season? Does it need mending? Will you mend it?

If you answered no to any of these questions the answer is simple, let it go.

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So, how much did you let go of? Don’t you feel better? I knew you could do it.

Now lets sort what is left.

photo by Clark Street Merchantile -1441986300917-64674bd600d8Think of your closet as a boutique.  Sort by color, sleeve length and then put all your pants, skirts and dresses together. Once you have it all organized you may just discover new outfits and combinations you did to realize you had. Getting dressed should be easier.

Maybe you need your clothes in coordinated outfits. If so do it.   Put your outfits together. Pick out a top and a bottom. Keep it up and choose all your outfits for the week. No early morning thinking required.small baby's room organized

This particular method works great for children who want to pick out their outfits but still need a little help.

Your closet is done now ~ on to the next one. You can do this.  What will you do next?


Thanks Pamela


#Kondo, Closet #Organized #clutter #momlife #livingwithatoddler

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Reasons for Resistance to Change

Misunderstanding that there is a need for change sometimes the reason for the change might not be clear — If you and your family do not understand the need for change you can expect resistance to change. Especially from those who strongly believe the current way of doing things works well…and has done for years! Famous words, “My Mom did it that way.”MoreFamilyTime 5-1 b

Fear: Fear of the unknown — One of the reasons I see frequently for resistance to change is fear of the unknown. Before some people can take steps toward the unknown is when they feel that not changing is a greater problem than the current situation and then they will move towards in a new direction.compas-photo-1470472304068-4398a9daab00

Lack of competence in the change — This is a fear many people will find difficult to admit. But there are times when change is required and may require changing so of your skills, and some people will feel that they won’t be able to make the transition very well. An example might be   you have been a single person or a couple and now you have a baby. You have to change the way you do many things.

A connection to the old way — If you ask people in a family or an organization to do things in a new way, as much as to you the new way makes your life easier and saves you time, you will be setting yourself up against all that emotional connections to the old way – and that’s not trivial. (This might go back to the way your mother did it and you would never want to insult your or their mom.)

Low trust — When people don’t believe that they can change there is likely to be resistance to change.

Temporary or a phase — Some people believe that the reason for change is a temporary or a phase.Danielle MacInnes photo-1455815152231-be9c88eb7468

Not asking the family — If your family is allowed to be part of the change there is less resistance. People like to know what’s going on, especially if their lives may be affected.

Poor communication — Well Duh! It’s self-evident isn’t it? When it comes to change there’s no such thing as too much communication. Everyone needs clear ideas as to what is expected of him or her.

Changes to routines — When we talk about comfort zones we’re really referring to routines. We love them. They make us secure. So there’s bound to be resistance whenever change requires us to do things differently. Make sure you keep talking about what you want and need. Everyone can have a role. (OK, maybe not the pets but everyone else.)dog-with-ball-oh9auo20kbk-andrew-pons

Benefits and rewards — When the benefits and rewards for making the change are not seen as tolerable for the trouble involved. Make sure everyone gets some benefit from your changes. Example, if Mom has help keeping the laundry done then she may have more time to go to the park or read the kids a story.

Realize there may in fact be resistance to change and planning for it from the start will allow you to successfully implement your changes. Be proactive you can do this.  I love your comments.  What has been your resistance to change?

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Do you make the same resolutions each year?

Happy New Year!

Someone once said do what you love and you will never work a day in your life.  I think there is a bit of a misunderstanding in that statement.  Just because you love what you do does not mean you don’t work and that you don’t work hard.  It just means that you enjoy what you are doing.

A photo by Tim Arterbury.

With each New Year many of us find that we need to make resolutions or feel the need to take stock of our life.  Now is a great time to use the New Year as a way to better our selves or to take the time to plan out the year.

But before you can do this you must first think about what do you really want?

I was having lunch with a group of women and one of the things that we discovered is that we are sometimes not sure what we really want.  We played a bit of a game where we were  asked to think about these 4 things. We were compelled to learn, reach for, try, test, experiment with, and do by specifically writing down what we needed to feel the following:





If you would like to take a closer look take out a piece of paper or open a new page in your computer and divide it into 4 squares.  coffee photo-1444418776041-9c7e33cc5a9c

In the squares write each of the topics.

Wanted                                Happy

Secure                                 Loved

Now think about what makes you feel wanted? What do you need to feel wanted?

What makes you happy?  What do you need to feel happy?

What makes you feel secure? What do you need to feel secure?

What makes you feel loved? What do you need to feel loved?


Come up with as many as you can.  Really think about it and write it down.  Any of these could be related to finances, safety, job, education, and flexibility or to family or friends.


Maybe  your wanted it to have your family come to you for their needs. That you will always have the laundry done or that your husband has what it need to make you a cup of coffee in the morning. You may feel wanted by knowledge that you are very good at your job or that you are the go to person in certain situations.  You are the best party planner; you organize all the family dinners or holidays.home-photo-1415301918039-3a58086adf06

Maybe your secure is to own your own home?  Or having a plan for retirement or even for your kid’s college?  Your secure could be knowing that you have marketable job skill? Your secure could be related to finances, safety, job, education, and flexibility or to family.

Your happy could be taking a family vacation or maintaining a calm and organized home?  It could be that you love to cook and preparing a meal for your family or friends makes you happy.


Your loved could be having a dog greet you at the door and love you unconditionally.  It could be having your husband make you a cup of coffee each morning.  Seeing the joy on your kids faces each day.

Now that you know what you need, you can check how you can get these things.  Now you can make a plan.  Whatever it is you can do it.  So keep learning, reaching, working, reading, trying, resting, and moving forward.

Remember failing to plan is planning to fail.

 So what will you do this year?


Thanks Pamela

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What is that smell….

With the holidays upon us some of you will be receiving perfume or cologne as gifts. Now is a good time to evaluate your existing scents.merry-christmas-aw4ctkdmc7k-jez-timms

Did you know that perfume could expire?

For perfume the magic number is 3 to 5 years. Cologne has an even shorter timeframe; it can expire in 2 to 2 ½ years.


Older than that the smell and color can change. I say can change because the secret to keeping your perfume longer than that is how you store it.

Storage of perfume or cologne:

When storing perfume or cologne think about how you would store wine.

  • Out of direct sunlight.
  • Away from heat sources.

A great place to store your perfume or cologne is in a drawer. Do not store your perfume or cologne in your car. Some people say they store theirs in the refrigerator.   I personally don’t because I have limited perfume scents at one time.perfume-so4efi-d1nc-jessica-weiller

Now that you know perfume and cologne can expire or change what should you keep or toss?

  1. Is the color darker? If the color has changed it might not be any good any longer.
  2.  Does the scent smell off?
  3. Did you like it to start with? If not let it go?
  4. Also if it is a natural fragrance and does not have any preservatives it will not last as long.

Perfume or cologne can have a chemical change. That change might cause an allergic reaction. So instead of you becoming allergic to your favorite scent you might have a scent that is expired or out of date.


Would you ever store you perfume or cologne in the refrigerator? What is your go to or signature scent?

Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas!!

Thanks Pamela



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To re-gift or not to re-gift?

That is the question.

Did you know that National Re-gifting Day is December 22?


Look most of the time gifts are perfect. But occasionally there are those that just don’t hit the mark. Maybe you got a candle that you are highly allergic to the scent or could it be that the scent reminds you of something you would rather forget and you just don’t like the scent? What to do? Keep, donate or sell? Tis the season for giving, so would you re-gift it?   Did you already re-gift it to your neighbor, child’s teacher or the babysitter? Are you sure you didn’t get that from the babysitter?


OK I am all for re-gifting. But there are some rules:


Rule #1 –        Do not re-gift to the person who give it to you.

Rule #2 –        Do not re-gift to someone who would know who that gift actually came from.

Rule #3 –        Make sure you remove the card or gift tag from inside the box.

Rule #4 –       Don’t keep stuff you don’t like just because someone gave it to you.

Rule #5 –        Don’t keep stuff you can’t use just because someone gave it to you.

Rule #6           Don’t keep stuff you will not use just because someone gave it to you.

Clutter can sneak up on us. Clutter can come in many ways. From the sale of holiday decor or plastic forks unless you need holiday décor or are planning a large casual party you don’t need to buy it just because it is on sale. “Don’t need”= equals clutter.

Clutter overwhelms and can grow. The best thing to do is keep it in control by limiting the space you allocate for any specific thing. Also, a key to being organized is to have a place for everything and you will be able to have everything in its place.

So have you re-gifted a gift? Why? Did the recipient enjoy it?

Thanks Pamela


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National Cat Herders Day 12/15

herding-cats-3593274951_0537ffa90c_bToday is National Cat Herders Day.  I know you are thinking how exactly does this fit in with being organized?

Let me tell you. Some of you feel like getting or staying organized is like herding cats am I right?  See, you knew I would get there.

Besides who doesn’t love a picture of cute kittens.


OK today is the day you herd your cats.   You can get organized and you can get control over your clutter.  Here are a few tips:

  • Stacking things develops bad habits. Stacks of items tend to grow into unmanageable piles of clutter and chaos that then take hours to clean and sort.  Looking a stacks or piles of stuff is stressful. It is a constant reminder that there is something to be done  ~ don’t be a Pilot! No Piles allowed.
  • Let go of what you don’t use or can’t wear.  Absolutely do not pay storage fees to store stuff you don’t use, can’t use and will not use.  Someday is most likely not going to come. If it does you can buy what ever you need and enjoy all the space in the mean time.
  • Kids need chores ~  Make chore  lists for children. If they know what is expected of them they can check that off of their lists too. Make them a chore list.
  • Delegate some of the responsibility. I know your kids may not load the dishwasher the way you would but it’s OK. The dishes will get clean. Also so what if your husband doesn’t fold the towels the way you would. They will still dry you off.
  • Don’t assume. Have clear expectations and responsibilities
  • Don’t put things down put them up. The next time you are piling things up, stop and ask yourself how much longer it would take to put things away. It may take a couple extra minutes now, but will save you even more time and effort in the future.
  • It’s OK to say NO. You don’t have to do it all.

Control your clutter and get organized.  You don’t have to be overwhelmed.  If you control it you can herd you cats.

Thanks Pamela


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Greeting Card Quandary

Happy Saint Nicholas Eve! For my readers in Belgium, Czech Republic, Slovakia, the Netherlands, Hungary, Romania, Germany, Poland and the UK.

I have a question? Do you still send Christmas cards? I do.   For me I enjoy finding cards that say Merry Christmas with an Arizona twist. Living in Arizona I don’t think I can send cards with snow and pine trees. So, I try to find ones that have cactus and palm trees. I have found some amazing photographers who make cards. I love receiving cards.  But that presents a slight problem.  They can easily become clutter.  What to do with all those cards that are not special?


Do you keep your cards?   Do you keep them but some are clutter? Of course some of these cards are special and you want to keep them but others…. Well they are pretty and what to do with them. I have a few suggestions for you.

Are you looking for a great way to pay those cards forward?

Did you know that St. Jude recycles greeting cards? More than 30 years ago, wishing to show our donors appreciation for making St. Jude’s Ranch for Children possible, the idea was conceived to turn the previous year’s Christmas cards into “new” cards for the coming season. The recipients were so delighted when they received the unique “thank you,” that they requested to purchase the special cards. The program soon expanded to include all-occasion greeting cards.snowflake-qll_mif7xjc-kelly-sikkema

Or you can donate them to a daycare or school. Cards are great for little ones to practice their skills with scissors.  (Sounds like a good way for grandparents to engage with the grand’s.)

Another thought is to turn them into gift tags or garland. What about using them to embellish gift

What do you do with your greeting cards? Do you think you might do any of this?

Happy Saint Nicholas Eve. Have a wonderful and wonder filled day.



#clutter #cards #greetingcards #recycle #chrismas #stjude #stnicholaseve


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Save Money!!

So am I the only one that does not know about Ebates?  If you don’t let me tell you about this.


You shop and you get paid.  What!!! I know Mind blow!!  Just in time for the holidays I found out that if you sign up for Ebates and shop as you normally do you can get rebates, cash back and discount coupons.    If you shop at Amazon, Ebay, Macy’s, Kohls,  Staples, L.L.Bean, Walmart, Nordstrom, Office Max, Neiman Marcus, Gap, Disney, Nike, Shutterfly and so many more you are just leaving money on the table.  They have rebates, discounts and more like free shipping codes.

Nuts right?  I got a $10 Walmart gift card just for signing up.

Click here to sign up!

Also if you sign up via my referral you get $10 and I get $25.  You can be registered to win a 2016 Toyota Highlander Hybrid from Ebates.      It’s free.  As they say you already do it why not get paid for it.    It’s quick and easy.  Do it.  I’m sure you can always use the extra money!  I

Thank you and you are welcome!


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Happy Thanksgiving week! Did you know that November is Family story month?

How perfect is that? Many of you will be gathering together, traveling over the river and thru the woods. Some will be going to Grandmothers house and others will be hosting the parents at theirs. Others will be having friends-giving. Your family can be the tribe you choose. Share stories. Make sure you take a video of Dad’s telling stories with your kids on his knee. Don’t miss Mom’s making their secret stuffing or cranberry sauce. Let your sister in law bring the sweet potatoes. It will be OK. Play silly games with your cousins, the nephews and nieces. Don’t hold grudges, say you are sorry if you did something wrong. You never know that one little thing you do or say can make all the difference to

Be kind. Be happy and be well. Treasure these times. Remember the times past. Happy Thanksgiving and Happy Family Story Month! Thank you all for coming in to my life.

May you all have more than you need today!

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough. Oprah Winfrey

I can’t wait to see and hear your family stories.  What is your favorite Pie?  We will be having Pumpkin here.  With a little maple whipped cream.  Yummy!!



#Thanksgiving #pie #familytime #parents #bethankful #momlife #dadlife #grandparents #family #friendsgiving

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Some Assembly Required

Those three little words can mean so much.  They can strike fear in the bravest.  They can confound the most astute.some-assembly-required-2333568563_75a84abb67_b

So how many of you have put together furniture or toys in your home? Maybe you did it as a part of a team building exercise, couples therapy or just sheer desperation.

Some of you want to follow all the directions. They will not start until they have checked the parts list and compared what was supposed to be in the box with what actually is.

Then there are other’s who want to just start putting bolts in holes and get this over with. News flash that does not always work out, sometimes you really to have to put slot A into slot B before you add shelf C.

Almost all of us have assembled furniture or toys at one time or another. Just the mention of Ikea can take a grown man to his knees.

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I personally have no problem assembling Ikea furniture. But navigating the store is another matter all together. I was watching the weather channel and they said they have finally discovered the secret of the Bermuda triangle. It is that the cloud is shaped like an Ikea store and the planes are actually flying around in the clouds trying to find the exit.  I’m not sure about this theory but I can attest that every time we my husband goes to Ikea he does the same thing.

Stop me if this sound familiar – Twas the night before Christmas

The children were nestled all snug in their beds;

While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads;

And mamma in her ‘kerchief, and I in my cap,

Had just racked our brains much needing a nap,

Sleep was not to be for Dad was assembling bikes,

while Mom in her Kerchief wrapped toys for the little tykes,

As Dad bruised his knuckles there arose such a clatter…

Mom already knew what was the matter…


I’ll share my families best Christmas Eve toy building story – My Dad and his brother-in-law stayed up very, very late assembling a swing set from Santa inside the garage. Dad was ready to move it out into the yard for the big reveal (because how do you explain that Santa put it in the garage) only to discover it would not fit out the garage door…. Well Christmas morning I was so excited to have my new swing set. Good news was I got to play on the swing in the garage for a bit before my dear Dad disassembled and re-assembled it in the yard.

Moral of that story is don’t assemble something inside unless you know you can get it out the door.

Anyway how many of you have extra parts left over when assembling toys or furniture? You can let those go because if you managed to get the toys or furniture together without them you don’t need them. Heck they probably put in some extra just to add to the frustration level. Also you don’t need the manual or instructions.  It just adds to the clutter.


I would love to hear you Holiday stories. See the ones that go smooth are easily forgotten but the ones that have a little hiccup are the best.

Thanks Pamela


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