My sister is pregnant we will be welcoming the newest member of the hive very soon. She moved almost 1000 miles away from home and I am 2000 miles away from her. She has made me aware of some of the crazy things new parents have to think about when you don’t have family around.
According to sis, don’t send a new mom a plant. She has just brought home a new addition that is totally helpless and dependent upon her. She needs to focus on keeping the newborn fed, burped, diapered and hope that she can sneak in a shower. That plant is going to die a slow painful death.
What she does need is to for you offer to run a few errands. If you are dropping off meal call to see if she might need toilet paper, soap, dog food or kitty litter. Before you head over, call her again. Her post baby brain may have now thought of something she forgot. (I can’t tell you how many times I have talked to her when she is running to the store for dog food or kitty litter.)
She also would really appreciate if you would come over and spend some time so she can take a shower and a nap would be so wonderful. Of course she is not sleeping so you don’t even have to ask.
If you folded laundry or did a load of laundry you would be the most amazing person on her list.
This will be baby number 2 so while she has some experience with kids don’t assume she knows it all. She still needs help. Assume this delivery was not any easier just because she has done it before.
Baby No 1 will also require a little extra attention. If you have kids same age, she would be for grateful if you could take him on a play dates to the park or just a trip around the block on their bikes. Give him something to entertained him and fill his time for he doesn’t feel so deserted.
She says if you are her best friend you might want to consider cleaning out the litter box, because they are “struggling”. LOL
But If you say anything about her weight she will block you.
Don’t forget about her after two weeks. That is when everyone else will stop coming by. But that is when she will really need you.
Of course if you live in another state you can send her a gift certificate for a cleaning service or food delivery.
Not that she knows it all but I’m just saying she actually has some good ideas here. She is of course my sister.
So what did you need when you were a new mom?
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