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I would rather live a life of Oh Wells rather than What Ifs.

Seize the day and have a great weekend!!  See you tomorrow.


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Do you really need to be organized?

If you are new here you may be asking yourself, do I really need help or do I need to get organized?car photo-1470434151738-dc5f4474c239.jpg

I don’t know do you? Can you walk across the room without stepping on toys? Can you see the floor? How about your office, do you have papers on the floor? Have you tripped or fallen over obstacles in your home? How many shoes are in the floor in the entry? Or this is my favorite. Do you have a door or cabinet that when you open it stuff crashes out? Do have to bob and weave just to get from one room to another?

You don’t need 2 sets of measuring spoons or cups. Or every kitchen gadget advertised on TV. Do you have a bread machine but never use it? Take a look around and see how many other things in your house do you have you never or hardly ever use?

 Men are not immune to clutter either. How about this? How many hammers or tape measures have you bought because you would not find one?garage photo-1467385829985-2b0fb82b5193

Guys do you have a really nice toolbox that is empty? Your tools scattered all over? Is there stuff in your garage that you have not used? Are you hoarding furniture and decor items from you bachelor days? Have a two-car garage and no cars fit in it? Don’t even get started on shoes and clothes. I know men can be bigger fashionista than women and have lot of shoes. Yes, sneakers are shoes. Just because they are Air Jordans in the original box does not mean they are not shoes.

What about sports gear? You don’t probably need water skies if you live in Arizona and you don’t own a boat. Same deal with your baseball equipment if you don’t play anymore because you blew out your knee 15 years ago. Give it up. Let it go.playball baseball.jpg

Don’t think we don’t know you use various hair gels and goo. Do you have stuff that you don’t use anymore? You watched an infomercial and you were sure it would re-grow hair or other things… but not so much. I get it; you paid lots of money for it. Look it will not work in the bottle. If you are not going to use it, get rid of it.

If you are not willing to walk on the wild side and risk falling over stuff in the dark then you do need to get organized.

You may be thinking you need a bigger house but it’s not in the budget? You may not need a bigger house what you need is a better system to stay organized. You may need less stuff.

Disorganization and clutter can leave you feeling overwhelmed.

But there is a way to gain control. Let go. Sell, donate, trash or give away.

De-cluttering can improve your life —

Clutter can also cause you to feel more stress and guilt.

You will feel better, have more space and if you organize your stuff you will have more time since you will not be searching for lost items. Small steps really do lead to big changes. Start small, be consistent and you will see results.

I am here to help. Feel free to look back over the posts for specific tips and I will continue to give you tips to gain control of your clutter.

Feel free to like, comment or share.  Thanks

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You hold the key. — Thriving Under Pressure

While reading  Dr. Andrea Dinardo’s  article about empowerment and change I was struck with the realization of how this also is true for you to control your clutter and banish disorganization in your life. Change begins with you. Little changes do make a difference.  Not having to search for your keys each morning or knowing what you children have going on at a glance can provide you stress relief and add a little zen to your life.  Please enjoy this re-blog from Thriving under Pressure by Dr. Andrea Dinardo.

You can change the world – one gentle, uplifting thought at a time. Start here. Right here. Right now. Be still. Breathe in gratitude. Be thankful for this very moment. Start small. Notice your passing thoughts. Let go. Awareness empowers. Say today’s date out loud. Notice the exact time it is right now. Look up at the […]

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Are you a Procrastinator or Just Overwhelmed?

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If you procrastinate, you put off until later what you should probably do right now or you wait until the last-minute to start a project.

Stop me if this it you:

  • You know you have to make dinner every day. (I know right, why does my family feel like they need to eat every day.) But you do not even think about what’s for dinner until 7:00 pm.
  • You know your husband only has 7 pairs of underwear but you don’t do laundry until the 8th day. Can you say commando?
  • It’s December 24 and you have not started shopping? I personally love gifts from CVS.
  • The school bake sale is today. You have no plans or baked goods?
  • Your vehicle gas is on empty and the low fuel light came on yesterday morning. You know your drive is 42 miles from the school to work and home. So does the light mean you have 50 miles to go before you run out of gasoverwhelmed 5-1 a?

Putting this off until the last-minute is stressful. Wondering if you will make it to the gas station or not with your kids in the car…yep, that is stressful.

Are you the type of person who thrives on adrenalin and intentionally puts off what they know needs to be done for the thrill? Probably not intentionally. More likely you are overwhelmed.

So do you procrastinate or are you overwhelmed?

You have too much to do and not enough time to get it done.

Try doing the following:

  • Delegate some of the responsibility. I know your kids may not load the dishwasher the way you would but it’s OK. The dishes will get clean. Also, so what if your husband doesn’t fold the towels the way you would. They will still dry you off.
  • Make the most of your time. If you could get organized you will find you have more time.
  • Don’t assume. Have clear expectations and responsibilities.  You may have heard the saying, if you assume you make an ass out of you and me.
  • Make time for you. Mom is a 24/7 job and you deserve a break even if it is only taking a shower without interruptions.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Set up a support system
  • It’s OK to say NO. You don’t have to do it all.


  • This is a phase. It’s OK  and you will get through it.  Your kids will get older.
  • Each Mom has their favorite phase of Motherhood and that is OK too.
  • Take Joy in the moments.  The moments your little one hugs your neck and gives you messy kisses.  Each moment is an opportunity to make a memory.

Mom’s now it’s your turn share or vent about your personal experiences.

Thanks Pamela

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Live Light. Live Mighty.

Nina from The Happy Life 101 has written an wonderful piece on 2 live lessons.  I hope you enjoy and find you the time to “Do the things that come from the heart. When you do, you won’t be dissatisfied…”– Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie. .

Today, I want to share with you 2 great life lessons that I personally believe would make a difference in the way we view life and the world around us, IF only we live by them. Lesson #1: FORGIVE YOURSELF AND FORGIVE OTHERS “Forgiveness is the best form of love. It takes a strong person to say sorry, […]

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Dorm Rooms – Tips to help you live in 114 square feet

Ah College Move in day. It’s right around the photo-1423798402048-1eb649bf30db.jpg

But how are you or your daughter going to make it in 114 square feet.   The average dorm room is 12 x 19 feet (228 total square footage) to be shared.

In that space there will be a bed, desk, dresser, probably a mini fridge and microwave not to mention all of those clothes, makeup, hair stuff and toiletries.

EEK that is tiny living. So you are going to have to make the most of every foot.

Will you be coming home for the holidays? If so maybe you doesn’t need all of your winter clothes since it will be fall when school starts.


  • Also think comfort for class clothes and shoes.   Perfect examples are solid tanks, comfortable flats, and a comfy pair of jeans. Mix and match will be your friend. Remember that scarves can really change an outfit.
  • You will not need lots of dressy outfits. Think a basic little black dress with a jacket and dressy outfit and shoes for more formal affairs like internship interviews, presentations or formals.
  • Work-out clothes, a bathing suit, bathrobe and shower shoes & sneakers
  • If you are going to an area where it gets chilly you will need a light jacket. Heavy coat, mittens, hat and scarf *(if you’re going to a campus with a colder climate) Maybe rain boots and an umbrella. Don’t forget a comfy pair of slippers (for hanging out in the residence hall)
  • Remember your entire space will be small. So don’t bring lots of shoes. No more than 6 (1 of each: flats, dressy heels, sneakers, shower shoes, slippers, boots) It’s hard but really you will not wear every shoe in your home closet and more importantly you don’t have room for them all.

Don’t over pack.

Whatever you thing you need edit out 40% of it.

Mom can send it of you if you really need something. *If you are going home for Thanksgiving you can switch out your fall clothes for winter and pick up your winter coat then.

Oh by the way you will probably be sharing a bathroom with lots of other girls.

No leaving your stuff in the bathroom.

You will have to carry it from your room to the bathroom and back again. Bring your own shower supplies. You’ll want a small bag or carryall that is easy to hang up where you can reach your soap, shampoo and conditioner.

What should you bring with you?

  • A waterproof shower caddy – either a plastic caddy or a mesh bag
  • Towels and wash cloths
  • A robe – for covering up after you shower – It might be a bit chilly in the halls even if you are not modest
  • Shower shoes – either flip-flops or crocs
  • Shampoo and conditioner – if you can use the 2-in-1 kind, you’ll save space
  • Razor and shaving cream
  • Shower gel is really easier than bar soap.


Which brings us to Laundry.Laundry photo-1469504512102-900f29606341

You will be doing your own. So you will need to bring your own laundry detergent, softener, stain remover and quarters. You will need a laundry basket or bag to get your stuff to the laundry.

Don’t bring:

A printer there should be a printer lab so you will not need one.

Toaster, hot plates, skillets, or toaster ovens


Halogen bulbs and/or lamps

Most schools do not allow you to put holes in the walls so no nails.

You will not need an alarm clock if you use your phone.   Your phone will be your camera, calculator, calendar and address book. You are on your own to get to class. Mom will not be waking you up so if you need a loud alarm clock then by all means get one.

This is not by any means a complete list if you want more tips about what to bring check out this  list from College Love to Know  Things to Take to College Dorm

Good Luck and Enjoy every moment of your new adventure!!  I love to hear your comments.




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Adult Binky — *Reblog* from itsgoodtobecrazysometimes

Originally posted on DREAM BIG DREAM OFTEN: credit: Dave Coverly/

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What do you call it in your family?

Happy Saturday.  I you can’t find you adult binky, I can help.

See you tomorrow!  Pamela

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Homework! Making it Easier for All

Create a homework box!

Now that back to school supplies are everywhere. It’s the perfect time to pick up and create a homework box. It could be a tote, box, basket, or crate. The purpose is to have everything your kids need to do their homework all in one spot.

Add things like pencils, a pencil sharpener, erasers, crayons or colored pencils, markers, calculator, index cards, tape, ruler, paper, highlighter and post it notes. You might even add a timer. Your kids will have everything they need, will not spend time looking for and putting off doing their homework.Aaron Burden photo- crayon 1453749024858-4bca89bd9edc

While you are at it you might as well set up an after school snack zone. Fill it with Mom approved snacks your kids can grab when they get home and are starving.

A shoe organizer with pockets is a great way to set up a snack zone. You can hang it on the back of your pantry door. By placing Mom approved snacks in the zone your child can reach. Older kids snacks can be placed in the higher pockets.

Next have a discussion with your children about homework expectations.

  • When they are to do homework? Do they get a certain amount of playtime are there scheduled breaks. This is where the timer will come in handy. You know how long you kid can work before they need to blow off some energy.
  • Snack before starting homework or after? If you are giving them a sugar snack you know they are most likely going to need to burn off the sugar energy. When did they have lunch? My husband is a little bit crabby when he is hungry and he is a little bit hungry all the time.❤ So, I always have snacks and you know a hungry person can be a cranky person.
  • Where are they to do their homework? Chose a place with minimal distractions. (Like TV and toys.)
  • Where is the homework box kept? Remind them that if they use the last of anything to let you know so it can be replaced. Don’t forget when you open the last package is a great time to add it to the running shopping list.
  • After the homework is completed where should your child put it for Mom or Dad to check it? I’m going to suggest you have them put it in a folder in their backpack. Once you have checked their homework they can return their backpack to the designated spot you have near the door.

If you would like to have a homework routine checklist

Chore Chart = Less Nagging

a whimsical life has a great one. A Whimsical Life Homework Routine  Remember if your children know what is expected and they know they have a checklist there should be less nagging.

So are you excited that the kids are going back to school or are you sad?

Have a great day!


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Who are you spending time with?

If you are not following Jay by now you should be.  He really is writing some amazing things.  Enjoy and I will see you tomorrow.  Pamela

A couple of weeks ago I had a discussion with a friend of mine about what it takes to achieve our goals in life. The main conclusion of this conversation is that a large amount of how successful we are in life comes down to the people we spend our time with. Strange as it […]

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Wedding Dresses ~ 3 thoughts

I can’t tell you how many wedding gowns I find stuffed in the back of closets.  Some of those are from failed marriages.  Some of you have stored them at your parents house.  Some of you have them stored at your house.  You may not want your child to be forced to choose between the dress of her dreams and the dress of your dreams.  What if you only have son’s?  Probably they will not want Mom’s wedding dress. Just saying.

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Wedding Dress photo by Brandon Morgan

The ghosts of weddings past…  You spent a lot of money on this dress.  You wore it one time.  Now what to do with it?  Well I have three options you can give consideration to.

  1. Wish upon a Wedding – Is a non-profit program granting weddings  and vow renewals to couples facing serious illnesses.  This is their link to donate a dress. Wish Upon a Wedding – About
  2. Brides Across America – Giving bridal gowns to Military brides.  They  also accept veils, tiaras and accessories  and they are always in need of small to plus size gowns.  Go to this link to inquire about donating your gown. Give a Dress
  3. NICU Helping Hands – I  just learned about this program where brides donate their wedding dresses to be made into Angel Dresses for infants who did not get to come home from the hospital.  At the present moment they are not accepting gowns.  They are needing help with shipping costs.  I would think there needs change on a regular basis. For more information this is their link.- NICU Helping Hands

Even if you decide these programs are not right for you.  I encourage you should check to see if there is an organization in your area doing this type of thing.  There are ways to let go of your wedding dress without feeling any guilt.  Plus you would be paying it forward.

Bernadette also recommended  Just another idea – I made my first child’s Christening gown from my bridal gown.

Have a great day!  Pamela

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